Connections

What is it that connects us to people? This is something I've been pondering for quite a while now and was prompted to finally post this after discussing connectedness with a friend earlier this evening. One of the reasons I've been really tossing this around is that there is a man that attends my church who I have a real connection with. We have seen each other outside of church, at other church-related activities, but always in a large group setting. Regardless of the size of the group function, he always makes it a specific point to seek me out. Although he is married with two grown children, we do have a real connection. However, I don't know what the true source of this attraction is. Initially, I was not drawn to him physically, but something drew us together...the first time we met. Ever since then, if I see him in church I linger afterward so I can say hello and talk with him. Usually, I don't even have to seek him out because he has already caught up with me. Without question, there is a mutual physical attraction there, but I know it runs deeper. I have not had the occasion to really pick his brain in an effort to discover what else might be lending to this unique connection, so I am left wondering. And I wonder well too. I wonder if it is, in fact, a shared experience, a common interest or common bond. Unfortunately it also isn't something that I can just come out and ask him, especially since he is off the market. Nonetheless, I would truly like to know what this glue is that holds us together.

People connect with certain people. I often think back to how and when my friendships were formed and I believe there has to be something akin for two people to initially connect, like personalities, a physical attraction, etc...then as you come to know that person better, you discover even more...goals and interests in common, shared life experiences, etc...That being said, there are also always those people with whom you are connected without ever really knowing why. This man is like that for me...again, admittedly I am physically attracted to him but that wasn't there from the start. I think the genuine affection he has for me probably lends well to that, after all, who doesn't appreciate attention from the opposite sex (or the same sex if that's your deal). I just wonder if I'll ever know what it is that connects the two of us. I guess for now, I'll have to keep wondering...and keep my eyes open in church!